There’s no doubt that dating can be exciting, but sometimes can be exhausting, too. From continuous swiping to meeting to rejecting (or being rejected by) dozens of matches, it can also be profoundly draining, and may result in one to suffer from an online dating fatigue. When you haven’t found success, and you’ve become reliant on your Smartphone to try to find the person you want to be with long-term, it’s easy to grow disillusioned and resent the entire experience.
People who are normally friendly and upbeat grow cold, defeated and cynical. They’ve been through so many deceitful. They tell others that they don’t believe in love anymore. Clearly frustrated, they even start to doubt their own self-worth. In cases like these, taking a deliberate break from dating would be necessary. That may sound drastic, but it works wonders for your self-care and sets you up for a more fruitful dating in the future.
Here are your ground rules for pressing pause;
Timing Is Everything
If you see yourself in what I describe above, a romantic recess is likely a good call. But if you find you have no real reason to stop dating, or you’re doing so because you can’t deal with any rejection whatsoever, then this approach won’t work for you. Not dating could become a crutch – a way to avoid ever getting back out there. You’ll only be using it as an excuse to stay out of the singles’ pool, and that could mean missing the chance to meet a person who would be great for you.
Focus On You
After you delete your apps and swear off all dates, replace them with some solo time. Instead of obsessing about great first-meeting wine bars or hitting it off with someone, your mind is free to reflect on your past experiences – and you can think smartly about shifting your approach. During this uninterrupted time, you can uncover useful answers to all the possible questions in your mind and remind yourself what a catch you are and that your true value lies in who you are in real life.
But not with romantic intentions yet. You can join a meetup group or take that random coworker up on his housewarming party invite. This will get you out of the habit of turning down or ignoring opportunities to interact with people who aren’t potential mates. Do something that invites physical contact with others too. The main purpose is to improve yourself from a state of dating obsession. But if a connection happens organically, it’s completely fine to make an exception.
Embrace A New Beginning
There’s no set time for when a dating time-out should end. It could be after a few weeks or even a few months. You’ll know you’re ready to get back in the game when you feel content with just yourself and you’re not always wondering about matching with another single. This time, try a mix of dating approaches.
Dating fatigue is real – and a common problem. To reboot your search for love, consider tapping out for a while. After your cleanse, you’ll be more likely to give people a chance and not judge them so quickly.